A wedding day letter to your groom, for the hour before you walk in
Written by hand · Sealed with wax · Sent as one link
Vows are written to be heard by a room full of people, so the most private things often get left out. A letter he reads alone, while he's getting ready, can hold the small and specific things only the two of you know. Write it as if you were sitting next to him, and keep it to what you'd say if nobody else were listening.
Free · No sign-up needed · Sent as a link
Ways to begin
“By the time you read this, I'll be somewhere down the hall with my hair half done, and I wanted you to have something that's only for you.”
“I'm not going to repeat my vows here. This is about the night you drove two hours just to bring me soup, and what I understood about you then.”
“You're probably fiddling with your cufflinks and pretending you're not nervous. I'm nervous too, and I've never been more sure of anything.”
What to write
1. Pick one real memory, like the moment you knew, and describe it in detail instead of saying you love him in general terms.
2. Leave out anything you're already saying in your vows. Use the letter for what feels too small or too private for a microphone.
3. Name one thing you promise for the ordinary days after the wedding, such as Sunday mornings or the arguments about the dishes, and keep the tone calm enough to settle his nerves.
Frequently asked questions
Q. What do I write to my groom that isn't in my vows?
Write about things the guests wouldn't follow or that you'd rather keep between you: an inside joke, what you noticed about him early on, how you feel this morning, and one thing you're looking forward to in the first week of being married. If a line would work equally well read aloud at the reception, save it for the vows.
Q. Can I set it so he gets the letter on the morning of the wedding?
Yes. You can set an opening date, and the letter unlocks at 00:00 that day. You seal it with wax, send it as one link by text, email or any messenger, and he opens it in a browser with no app and no sign-up. If you want, you can also add a password and tell only him. Writing, sealing and sending are free.